Definition of Sabr

Abdullah Yusuf Ali defines Sabr to have a larger meaning than the word patience which is believed to be its english equivalent. He uses several Qur'an verses and examples from hadith literature to define the term sabr. Let's all aim towards attaining sabr in our actions.

The arabic word sabr implies many shades of meaning. It implies 

• Patience in the sense of being thorough and not hasty (this means to do any given task thoroughly and not in a rush. This requies using your time wisely, planning out events in your life carefully and thoroughly which includes homework, job, prayer, reading material and basically all such things doign them peacefully and not in a state of fear and panic)
• patient perseverance, constancy, steadfastness, firmness of purpose (doing an act of faith and continue to persist in doing that act of faith and not give up on it when your heart testifies it and acccepts it. For example if your heart testifies that child abuse is wrong that you should constantly struggle against these forms of injustices and yourself have the example of how it is done properly by being the change that you want to see in the world)
• systematic as opposed to spasmodic or chance action (an example for this would be the five daily prayers and your regular activities and earnings which all need to be systematic. You should take action in a calm and peaceful state of mind, it should be reasonable as opposed to taking chances. It should be as carefully acted on as possible. For example, you shouldn't leave home so that you get on the bus stop only one minute before the bus arrives so that you have an equal chance of missing the bus. You shouldn't do so many activities that the time for your prayer has become narrow and you have a chance of missing it. When it comes to studying you should avoid the last minute and make sure that you know the material and haven't just guessed. That is not appropriate).
• a cheerful attitude of resignation and unerstanding in sorrow, defeat or suffering as opposed to murmuring or rebellion but saved from mere passivity or listlessness by the element of constancy or steadfastness (This requies faith. When thigns don't go the way that you want you have to understand that Allah has a plan for everything. Everything happens for a reason and you have to now trust Allah and seek more guidance. This includes loss of a job or somebody's death or maybe an illness. You need to accept what happened and now find a way through it. Maybe this requies a changed lifestyle or a new improvement in your life. Maybe there was somethign bad and you are saved from it. Maybe Allah is testing you to see whether you truly worship Allah (swt) sincerely or if it is because of wealth or because of people.

Allah (swt) states in the Qur'an:

"O ye who believe, seek help with patienct perseverance and prayer, for Allah is with those who patiently persevere. Be sure that Allah will test you with somebthing of fear aand hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits of your toil but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Who say when afflicted with a calamity, to Allah we belong and to Him is our return."

An additional meaning to sabr is self restraint and following reason and restraining fear, anger and desire. Allah (swt) gives the reward for patient perseverance, self restraint and constancy by being with us, opening the doors for every spiritual being. 

Allah (swt) also states in the Qur'an:

"O ye who believe, persevere in patience and constancy, vie in such perseverance, strenghten eachother and fear Allah that ye may prosper" (Qur'an 3;200)

The full meaning of sabr is understood here. Patience, perseverance, constancy, self restraint, refusing to be cowed down. These virtues we are to exercise for ourselves and in relation to others. We are to set an example so that others may vie with us and we are to vie with them lest we fall short in this way we strengthen each other and bind our mutual relations closer in our common service to Allah. (Abdullah Yusuf Ali Quran Tafsir)

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Definition of Patience

The arabic word sabr is often defined in english to be patience, however, according to Abdullah Yusuf Ali, an educated linguistic in the languages english and arabic who has put a great effort in translating the Quran explains that the meaning of sabr is broader than simply patience.

Before understanding the full meaning of Sabr, lets start by understanding the full meaning of patience. Patience according to the Websters english defiition can be defined as sustaining trouble, unflinchingly, perseverance and a person's quality of enduarance. (Persevering meaning to persist). Synonymns to patience include composure, endurance, forbearance, fortitude, and long suffering. The opposite being impatience, nervousness and restlessness  Synonyms of perseverance include constancy, determination, fortitude, persistence and steadfastness.

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Sabr

Sabr, like many other things mentioned int he Qur'an is an order to us from Allah (swt). The reason this needs serious discussion is because we spend a lot of time over the apparent duties we are ordered such as hijab and daily prayers, charity which are all very important as well but without the inner condition of the soul we cannot fully understand the true virtue behind them. Patience, like hijab is a very big challenge and a command from Allah (swt) that every Muslim should aim to attain.

have faith, be firm, keep steady and stay constant.

Lets all learn the virtues of SABR! 

Table of Contents

Definition of Patience

Definition of Sabr

What if something wrong is being done to you?

The Spiritual Benefits of Sabr

Why you can't have the better of both worlds without being tested

Why you can't be impatient

Conclusion

Controlling the Tongue

its good to think before you talk. It's good to think about whether or not what you're saying is going to hurt someone feelings, its good to consider if you're saying what you're saying in the appropriate time. It's good to take the context into account. It's good to filter the shaitan's whispers before you talk. It's good to mean what you say and not speak for the sake of only customs & manners & politeness but through sincerity and meaning. It's good to make sure what you're saying is clearly stated and understandable. It's good to think before you talk.

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Speak the Truth (3:17)
Speak Straight (33:70)
Speak Justice (6:152)
Speak Kindly (2:83)
Speak Politely (17:53)
Speak Fairly (17:28)
Speak Gently (20:44)
Speak Graciously (17:23)
Speak not in vain (23:3)
Speak no lie (22:30)

Author's Note

Before I start this whole article. Im going to have to mention sincerity in this section as well. Sincere speech means to say something, sincerely. It is good to say good things but it is even more important to be sincere in what you say.

The Qur'an specifically says that " They were that day nearer to unbelief than to faith, saying with their lips what was not in their hearts But Allah hath full knowledge of all they conceal". (Surah Al imran, 167).

This line is defining the hypocrites. That is equivalent to lying, insincere speech is equivalent to lying. When a person's motives are different, when there is pretending, or when a person is speaking fair words for ease. This is insincere speech.

Speaking good or remaining silent actually goes to thoughts. If the shaitan gives you a bad thought you should cast it out, you should clean out your thoughts, you should consider your motives and your intentions and before you speak you should make sure that your words are sincere.
Don't be speaking good or remaining silent when your motives and intentions are actually bad because you would be lying, and you would by lying to yourself and Allah (swt) will know what you are concealing in your hearts so be afraid of Allah. Clean your heart, and it will automatically clean your tongue.

THis goes to the timing as well. You dont have to say things at a specific time. You have to say things on the spot. You shouldnt have to plan ahead, you should  just say whatever on the spot. Of cource timing is relevant where you don't want to be telling somebody their responsibilities when they are in a really bad mood or when somebody is crying you dont want to show up with the bad news. Timing is important and it is important to know that you dont tell somebody something when they're not in the mood at all, or when you know you're just goign to make the whole thing a lot worse for somebody. You would also want to surprise somebody at a time when they would want to be surprised the most and so timing is important to a degree but not so much that you are just not saying things on the spot. The reality is, the best time to say them is when they are the most relevant which tends to be at the moment because that is how memories are recalled when they are spoken about, on the spot. There are only a few exceptions regarding timing.

As well, being connected to reality.
You dont want to be going on and on about your life without even listening or reading your listener or audience. You have to engage the listener at the same time and consider them. For example, you dont want to keep on talking to a person that really doesn't care at all what you have to say. You dont want to be talking on and on almost like you're up in the sky with vague words and the person listening to you has absolutely no idea what you're saying. Sometimes words like "do you know what I mean" or, asking questions in between to make sure the person is actually listening helps. Also keep on reading their expressions, it'll give you a huge hint as to whether they are even listening to you at all or not.

You're ideas are definately worth listening but they way you present them is also important.
No one in this world is going to understand you. They don't share the same experiences as you, they haven't had the same life as you, as much as you have a vivid picture of exactly what you're saying, they dont. So you're going to just have to speak clearly and make sure they understand what you're saying.

The most engaging speaker will be the sincere speaker. Their eyes, their expression, their gestures, will all say exactly what their words say and they will be the easiest to read.
If you can make your speech sincere, you've already done the speaker part,
now it's all about the listening part that needs improving.

Heaven; Conclusion

    In conclusion, through our understanding of heaven we can better understand our role that we play in the universe. Not only do we have to place our hopes in Allah (swt) but also understand the role we play in the universe. Not only do we have to place our hopes in Allah (swt) but also understand that the only way any of us will be saved is by putting forth our best efforts and through Allah (swt)'s mercy towards us. In lfie we are given many chances to perfect our conduct an din the infinite afterlife we can either be trapped and tortured in the hellfire because evil spirits cannot rise or we can prove prove our worth to Allah (swt) by livign our life by his order and will. Compromising our faith for worldy desire is completely unacceptable and destroys the purpose for which we were placed on the arth. We must alway sput Allah (swt) before everythign else and know taaht Allah (swt) will reward us f or our efforts but we must constatnly strive towards perfection and hope that our efforts will not go in vain.

Heaven (part vi) Judgement Day

    On the day of judgement, everything as we see it will be changed forever. Human souls along with the whole universe containing the angels and the spirits will be ordered by Allah to go out of existence and again everything will be brought back for the final judgement. The Qur'an states "On that day will we rooll up the heaven as is rolled up written as we caused the first creation so will we get it return (it is) a prmoise binding us. Verily we are doing it" (Quran 21;104). This states that on judgement day the univserse will be foleded up. For thsoe who doubt about the whole unvierse being brought to an end, another phase of life being creted by the Almighty Lord. There cannot be a better answer than the verse "Is not He who created the heavens and the earth and able to create the like of them? Aye, He is for He is the All wise creator". The Qur'an also sttese about the day of judgement "on the day when the heaven shall reel a terrible reeling" (52;9). "And when is rent asunder the heaven them it becometh red like the tanned hide" (Quran 55;37). "on the day the heaven shall be like molted brass" (Qur'an 70;8). This is referring to the state in which the beautiful sky we see now will be transformed presenting the dreadful sight which the infinte mercy of the Lord allowing. Allah (swt) is informing individuals to behave as they please but also effecting the individual punishment in gradual stages, , allowing them chance after chance for the sinner at every statge to repend and rectify his conduct. However greed and selfishness and love of wealth take man away from the right cource eventhough it was made known to them by their predecessors and now man when caught in his own folly tends who tends to throw the blame on others. (Ahmed Ali Quran Tafsir: 70;8)

Heaven (part v) Allah (swt)'s Control over the Seven Heavens

    Allah (swt) is the creator and master of the seven heavens. The Qur'an states "Allah it is who raised the heavens without any pillar that ye see then firmly established himself on the thronge of absolute uathority and made subservient the sun and the moon to His will, each one to run its cource to a time appointed for it. Regulateh to the affair, explaineth He the signs (in detail) so that about the meeting with your lord ye may be certain (Qur'an: 13;2). It is asserted here that the administration of the universe is solely Allah's who has created it. This proves Allah's sole authoirty over the universe be that in the realm of creation, legistlative, or admnisistrative and there is no bifurcation of power whatsoever in any realm. These unseen pillars are either the law of gravitation or of equation. (Ahmed Ali Quran Tafsir; 13;2) Allah (swt) further statres; "By the heavens endued with rotation", (Quran 86;11). Here it is referring to the return of the same action or function again and again in the presecribed order or cycle. The return of the monsoonic funcitons and their relaevant changes in the working of the heavenly bodies and the consequent effects on the earth. Though the firmanent above is always the same yet the changes in its function takes place quietly without any vaoice of anyone else in the matter save the iwll of the Almighty author of the universe. The revolving and the change in the activities of the heavenly bodies goes on constantly and it is ever true to its center. it indicates the roatinoal and revolutionary nature of the heeavenly bodies. (Ahmed Ali Quran Tafsir). There is continuous workign of Allah's will with perfect harmony. The whole unvierse is obedient too the law of Allah. The universe is free of imperfections .There is absolute submissiveness of every part and particle of the universe whether animate or inanimate to Allah's order, will and might. Allah (swt) is the master, the creator and not one particle in the vast universe moves except buy His order and will.

Heaven (part iv) Human's Ability to Comprehend Heaven

    As I have mentioned earlier, the universe is vast and not simply comprehendible by human beings. Allah (swt) states int eh Qur'an "And we have made the heavens a canopy well guarded and yet they from its signs turn aside" (Qur'an ;). None can ever even imagine passing through the heavens. Though man is trying to travel through space, even if he succeeds the journey will be only with its wn limitation. None can ever know the exact extent of the space and the existence of the millions and millions of the solar systems one after the other being contrinuously discovered more and ever mroe by every stronger telescope that man could make. it clearly indicates the impossibilty of any travel by anyone all through the whole of space. Besides the professors of witchcraft falsely claiming their journey into the heavens, this verse negates all such false claims of such bogus spiritualists getting into heaven or getting anythign from it. (Ahmed Ali Qur'an Tafsir: ;). Allah (swt) further states thta "Or for them is a ladder by which they can climb up into heaven and listen to the angels? Then let the listeners of theirs bring forth a proof manifestation." This verse is directed towards those who claim that besides logical methods of the approach to the moral, social and theological problems, they have special ways of direct communion or direct toouch qwith the divine sources. Claims of such nature have no v)alue unless it is supported by clear and irrefutable evidence such as miracles. (Qur'an Tafsir by Ahmed Ali; 52;38)

Heaven (part III) The Seven Heavens

Allah (swt) has created seven heavens, however we only have knowledge of the lowest ehaven. However, how can we understand the reasoning behind somethign that is beyond our human capacity? How can we be so sure that the heaven we are working towrds does in fact exist? How can we be sure that the moral order we are choosing to follow brings with it the promise of an afterlife? Allah (swt) states in the Quran "He who created the seven heavens one above another no want of proportion will you see in the creation of Allah, most gracious so turn your vision again. Do you sdee any flaws? And again turn your vision, your vision will come back". This explains a lot. It shows us that when we look towards the nearest of the heavens, the farthest that we can see is this earth, the sun and the moon and the galaxies which are put together and accomodated in the lowest of the heaven or the regions and we have knowledge of its vastness. Just by our attempts we can understand that they are beyond the conception of our human intellect. A lot of times in the Qur'an Allah (swt) will explain the nature of things that are within our comprehension through the human capacity but here Allah (swt) tells us to put forth our best attempts and even while we gaze at the lowest heaven we can understand the vastness of it which is infinite, vast and ocntinuous. Because right now we are finite beings, it is difficult to comprehend infinity but through our search towards the heavens, we can see it exists but never fully be able to comprehend it. Allah (swt) states int the Qur'an "And the heavens we did raise it up with our might and verilyu we are the explander of it." This indicates the expandabillity of the space. Impllying its present limitation and discarding its fixity. (Ahmed Ali Tafsir: 51;47). In other words, its infinite nature and how the unversie is constantly expanding as science has recently proved and how it is unlimited. Allah (swt) also states "And He made them seven heavens in two days (periods) and reveealed in every ehaven His Will and adorned the lower heavens with lights (of the brilliant stars) and made it guarded (with angels). That is the decree of the All-Mightly, the All knowing" (Qur'an 41;12). This shows us that only the lower heaven contains the illuminating stars which might also mean that the after six skies beyond may be in a nebula sstate. Allah (swt) also states in the Qur'an that "Then He applied Himself unto the heaven which was yet only a smoke, so said He unto it unto the earth 'come ye too, willing or reluctatnt' said the two 'we come willingly'" This might be referring to the theory of Nebula as the original form of the heavenly bodies. (Ahmed Ali Tafsir: 41;11). Allah (swt) states in the Qur'an "What! see they not up unto the heaven above them how we have made it and adorned it, no gaps therein?" (Quran: 50;6). The Qur'an is drawing attention to the continuity of the creation in space and time and that in spite of all the variations there is no gap. Thus life in its evolutionary state is an evolutionary continuity. (Quran Tafsir by Ahmed Ali, ;). Everything int he heavenly regions are in such perfect harmony and order with one another and the motions of each body in the space is so marvellously regulated by the universal law that nowhere in the kingdom of Allah (the universe) there is the elast flaw of any irregularity or failture or a gap. There is neither any incongruity in the working of the law of nature nor there is any disorder or laxiety. This proves the absolute unity of the one singular and supreme authority ruling the whole world visible and invisible to us. The inconceivably vast space is one continued state that there is no gap between one region and the other. There is continuity in the universe with no gaps or break whatsoever in betewen. It is one of the signs of the unity of the creator.

Heaven (part II) The Lower Heaven

    The lower heaven contains evil spirits as well as good spirits, however, it serves as a boundary and prevents the evil sppirits from rising above the first realm of Allah (swt)'s creation of heavens. The arabic word for the lower heaven is 'samad dunya'. This is the nearest heaven to earth and is lower than the heavens which could be called to be the seat of the exalted asssembly of the angels. They are beautifully decorated with stars and these play a part in the well planned grouping and the perfectly harmonious working of everything in the heavens manifesting the unity, the power and the wisdom of the one All perfecct designer, ;c-reator and supreme master of the universe. (Ahmed Ali Quran Tafsir: 6-10). Allah (swt) states in the Quran "We have indeed decked the lower heaven with beauty in the stars. For beauty and for guard against all rebellious evil spirits. So they should not strain their ears in the direction of the exalted assembly but be cast away from every side, repulsed for they are under perpetual penalty. Except such as snatch away something by stealth and they are pursued by a flaming fire of piercing brightness" (Quran: 37; 6-10). This is most likely referring to the jinns or other evil spirits. It indicates that devilish beings are fascinated by the phenomena of the lower sphere and are unable to come in communion with the angelical beings of the higher sphere but some may attempt to get stealthily the news of the higher sphere but will be driven back. (Quran Tafsir Ahmed Ali). The kingdom of Allah is perfectly planned and entirely guarded against any rebellious elements, material or spiritual, venturing to disturb it. The functioning of the heavens manifest not only the inimitable divine beauty but also the glory of the power and the authority of the omnipotent creator. Goodness is always protected aginst evil. (Ahmed Ali Tafsir: 37;6-10). However, evil spirits as a respite could appproach the lower heaven and would get some information about the future and used to adulterate the knowledge with some falsehood on behalf of their own selves and inspire the matter to their devotees on earth but since the advent of the last apostle of Allah and the revelation of the final code of guidance, the holy Qur'an even this approach to the first or the lowest regions above has been stopped and since then no evil one could have any knowledge from the higher regions where the grand assembly of the holy and the heavenly beings is said to be held. (Ahmed Ali Quran Tafsir: 37;6-10). After the advent of the holy prophet, the doors of even the lower heavens got cloesd to the devils or the evil spirits. No soothsayer could cheat the people with false prophecies about the futue of persons. Even if the devislish spirits dared to rise to approach the regions of the assembly of the angels, it is repulsed and pursued by flames by means of shooting stars.

Heaven (part I) Good and Evil

    According to the Qur'an, good and evil are both present. There is both good and evil spirits in the lower heaven in whcih we live. The lower heaven serves as a boundary to keep the evil spirits below and prevents them from entering above the seven heavens. Goodness is defined as original and real. Men of Allah who are defined as good are personified and are a reflection of the manifestation of the goodness of the lord and are duly protected and are called mansooms, the duly protected ones. This protection has been put into effect from the very moment they were brought into existence, keeping them away from every impurity and pollution. Evil is alienand opposed to the goodness which is original and has no permenance , for evil is only the act of rebelliousness against goodness out of viciuos desire of the devilish urge. Such corrupt souls or the evil spirits who lose by their own wickedness have the urge to rise above the material world. Their attempts are to rise but they are not gained and they have lost their title to it. They have inquisitiveness to know what is in the higher regions, the right to enter which they have forfeited. When such unwarranted attempts are made by the evil spiritis to rise into the heavently heights they are repelled and thrown into their base, the abyss. (Ahmed Ali Quran Tafsir: 37;6-10). An example of goodness on the other hand is the nobelest and purest spiritual beings which men can conceive outside the human rantks of God's creation, the angels. Among the angels the nearer ones are the 'arsh' or the central seat of the divine authority, those that are greater or superior in their excellence. The pure, noble and venerable abstract beings funciton one side in celebrating the praise and the glory of God and as the side in the solicitous prayers to the Lord for the protection or the forgiveness of the human fellows in creation below. (Ahmed Ali Quran Tafsir: 42;5). This shows us the motives an nature of goodness as well as the motives and nature of evilness. Goodness is original (being yourself) while evilness is a reactio nto it, a rebelliousness towards goodness.

Heaven Introduction

-written by Zartasha

    You may wonder why you are here. What purpose has brougght us into the earth? Why Allah (swt) put us here in the first place and why he will place some of us in heaven and others in hell. We understand that shaitan can make us sin and lure us down in many ways and that Allah (swt) cannot allow impurities and evil spirits to cross onto other realms.

    A lot of times you might wonder why you have to struggle so much or put up with a lot of things especially if there is no hope in something that might come out of your struggles. You might wonder why you have to give up so many worldy pleasures especially if tehre is nothing unattainable. This is harder when you are wealther. However, this is not only just a personal matter, this is a universtal matter. To understand something of this nature we have to broaden our horizons and see the heavens and understand their reality. We have to place our hopes in Allah (swt). Allah orders us to divert our attention towards the hereasfter and trust in Allah for our worldy affairs. Allah (swt) explains that the more man sues his brain and his perfected scientific implements, it only increaes his wonder about the heavens and their heavenly wonders. The increase in knowledge only increases the marvel about the objects, the heavens.

    So let us begin by placing our hopes in Allah and making heaven more significant than earth and strengthen our spiritual self above our material self, working towards attaining Jannah rather than being trapped insdie the hellfire after the Day of Judgement. This seciton about the book 'Why did Allah (swt) create heaven, hell and earth' will be talking about the description of good and evil, the placement of human beings in the lower heaven, their judgement. There will be a description of the seven heavens followed by the description of the lower heaven and a description of its funciton. The human ability to comprehend heaven, the occurance of heavenly events at the timeof the judgement day and Allah\s control control over the heavenly bodies and human placement in the heavenly bodies. This will help us to understand the nature and reality of the heavens existence and insh'Allah strengthen our iman by allowing us to trust in Allah (swt)'s will and placing and strengthening our hopes in Allah who is our master and creator.

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whoever seeks Allah’s Pleasure at the expense of man’s displeasure, will win Allah’s Pleasure and Allah will cause men to be pleased with him. And whoever seeks to please men at the expense of Allah’s Displeasure, will win the Displeasure of Allah and Allah will cause men to be displeased with him (a reminder to myself first and foremost, in'sha'Allah) - <3 I need Allah in my Life <3


sometimes you think the dream is beautiful and the reality is bad. But the truth is, reality is beautiful but you just never opened your eyes.


"Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up"


"If Allah brings you to it, He will bring you through it. Happy moments, praise Allah. Difficult moments, seek Allah. Quiet moments, worship Allah. Painful moments, trust Allah. Every moment, thank Allah."
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Sometimes,
ALLAH breaks our spirit to save our soul,
breaks our heart to make us whole,
sends us pain so we can b stronger,
sends us failure so we can be humble,
sends us illness so we can take better care of ourselves,
takes something away from us so we can learn the value of everything we have,

Trust ALLAH, Love ALLAH.
Whatever ALLAH does, is always the Best for us


Worry about your character and not your reputation because your character is who you are and your reputation is only what people think of you.


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Sometimes, He breaks our spirit to save our soul.
Sometimes, He breaks our heart to make us whole.
Sometimes, He allows pain so we can be stronger.
Sometimes, He sends us failure so we can be humble.
Sometimes, He allows illness so we can take better care of ourselves.And sometimes, He takes everything away from us so we can learn the value of everything He gave us.


Somewhere along the line you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you're no good; and when things got hard you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done.
-Rocky balboa.


It was only a smile, nothing more. It didn't make everything all right. It didn't make anything all right. Only a smile. A tiny thing. A leaf in the woods, shaking in the wake of a startled bird's flight. But I'll take it. With open arms.
-- Khaled Hosseini: The Kite Runner


We forget that there is another culture living right beside our culture that has nothing.
-- Sh. Hamza Yusuf


To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson


It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.
— J.K. Rowling


All day I think about it, then at night I say it. Where did I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing? I have no idea. My soul is from elsewhere, I'm sure of that, and I intend to end up there.
— Rumi


Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge?
Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?
— T.S Eliot


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its easy to be friends with someone humble, hard to be friends with someone arrogant. But some people think that just because someone has attitude must mean that they'er all that and they keep chasing after them which is really stupid. Those same people take humble people to be weak and see themselves superior to them and mistreat them. But if you have any grain of wisdom in you, than you would know to make humble friends and not arrogant friends because the true kinds of friends are humble and kind not arrogant with attitude.
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Best Marriage Wishes: May Allah grant them and all couples love, harmony, joy, compassion, respect, prosperity, success and faith. May Allah also facilitate success for those looking for suitable life companions."

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u can say that you are thankful to Allah in your speech everyday and continue to curse the cook, your children, your neighbors and than say, thank you Allah but its different to be sincerely thankful to Allah in your actions. A sincere thankfulness to Allah shows gratitude towards your surrounding through your actions, gestures, everything not just mere speech
-zartasha
u can say..that u glorify Allah but to glorify Allah means not to fall for all the glamours of the world.
-zartasha

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Purpose of the Night of Qadr

‎~~~Lailatul Qadr~~~

The Messenger (SAW) said: 'Whoever prays the Night of Qadr with Eemaan
(faith) and hoping for its reward, ALLAH will forgive him all his
previous sins.' [Bukhaaree and Muslim]


'Lailat-ul-Qadr' or 'Night of Power' a very important occasion in the
history of Islam and in our personnel lives.


The Night Of Power is better for you to live, to experience and to enjoy
than one thousand months of your personal life. Even if you were to live
one thousand months (83.3 years) with sincerity, dedication, and
sacrifices and with good intentions and deeds, the Night Of Power is
still far better for you to live and to enjoy.

ALLAH says in the Qur'an in Surah Al-Qadr:
'We have indeed revealed this (message) in the Night of Power. And what
will explain to thee what the Night of Power is? The Night of Power is
better than a thousand months. Therein come down the angels and the
spirit by God's permission, on every errand: Peace! This until the rise
of Morn.' (97:1-5)

The Night of Power is a night of blessings ALLAH has blessed this Night.
Therefore whosoever is interested in receiving the blessings of ALLAH may
look forward to the Night of Power.
Anyone who seeks the Night of Power and lives it, all his/her sin will be
erased. This is, as if, he/she is, born again now free of all sin and
mistakes.

Aa'isha (R) said: 'When the last ten days of Ramadhaan arrived the
Messenger (SAW) used to abstain (from contact a with his wives) and he
would establish the nights. He would awaken (his family) to do the same
also.' [Bukhaaree and Muslim]

I am sure every one of us would like to live a life free of sins an free
of mistakes. Everyone would like to meet ALLAH on the Day of Judgment
without sins. Every one of us would like to feel that he/she is reborn
today. All of us wish to rejuvenate ourselves, and to start a new year
with a fresh outlook and a fresh life. Every one of us wants to live a
pure life and everyone wants to purify himself/herself without anguish or
torment.

The Night of Power is one of the best way in which a person is to achieve
all these ideals. For this reason may I suggest that you start looking
for it, so you will be able to observe it and enjoy it.

Imam Bukhari reports from 'Aishah that the Messenger of ALLAH (may ALLAH
bless him and grant him peace) would tighten his waist-cloth (i.e. detach
himself from his wives), spend the night in worship and awake his family,
during the last ten nights of Ramadan.

As far as determining the Night of Power (Lailat-ul-Qadr) is concerned,
it has been reported to be during one of the odd numbered nights of the
last ten days of Ramadhaan, i.e. 21st, 23rd, 25th, 27th or 29th. It has
been emphasized that it is most likely to be the 27th night. But this
doesn't mean you should stick to 27th night only..

The Signs of the Night of Qadr.

The Messenger of ALLAH (js) described the morning of the night of Qadr so
that the muslims can know which night it is.
Ubayy (R) said: 'On the morning of the night of Qadr the sun would rise
without any beams; (it is like) a wash basin until it rises.' [Muslim]
Abu Hurairah (R) said: 'We mentioned the night of Qadr to the Messenger
of ALLAH (JS) and he said: 'Which of you remembers when the moon rises
and it is like half a bowl.' [Muslim]
Ibn Abbaas (R) said that the Messenger of ALLAH (JS) said: 'The night of
Qadr is a night of generosity and happiness, it is not hot and neither is
it cold. The sun comes up in its morning weak, reddish.' [Tabaranee, Ibn
Khuzaimah and Bazzaar]
To summarize, I would like to mention the following:

1.. The sun rises early in the morning without rays.
2. Rain may fall either during the night or during the day of that night.

3. During night the sky will be lightly foggy.
4. The sky will be slightly lighted without reflections and without rays.

5. The angels and Gabriel all descend down onto earth for many purposes.

If you are interested in living the Night of Power, let me remind you of
some of the things that you might have to do.

a. Recitation of the Our'an.
b. Prayers-Nafl after Taraweeh.
c.. Remembrance of ALLAH or zikr
d. Supplication or Du'a for you and for others.
e. Reading books of Hadeeth so as to enjoy the sayings of Prophet
Muhammad (SAW).


In Sahih Bukhari (6/521), there is an amazing piece of advice from the
Prophet (may ALLAH blesses him and grants him peace): 'Recite the Quran
as long as your hearts agree on it; if you disagree about it, stop
reciting it (for the time being)' -- studying the Quran should bring
people together!

Ten days are the last part of the month and a person's actions are based
on his last ones. So perhaps, he will encounter the night of Al-Qadr,
while standing in prayer for ALLAH and thus have all his past sins
forgiven.

The Night of Power is a very important occasion in Islam. Everyone is
asked to live it and to enjoy it. This Night is a 'Night of Mercy', a '
Night of Blessing', a 'Night of Peace' and a 'Night of Guidance'. It is a
'Night of Unification' between the finite world of ours and the Infinite
Universe of the Unseen.

May ALLAH give us the strength, the power, the courage and the effort to
do our best to obey ALLAH and to follow His teachings. May ALLAH guide us
and may ALLAH strengthen our Emaan May ALLAH help us to live another year
with sincerity and devotion. May ALLAH make us realize that one year of
our life is over and that we are one year closer to our graves.

Let us wake up and do our best to please ALLAH in our daily life. Let us
ask Almighty ALLAH forgiveness. Ameen.

And one must incite, animate and persuade his family to perform acts of
worship, especially in these great times in which no one neglects it
except that he has been deprived. What is more incredible than this is
that while the people are performing prayer and making tahajjud, some
individuals spend their time in forbidden gatherings and sinful events?
This is indeed the greatest loss. We ask ALLAH for his protection.


So we ask ALLAH to grant us the ability to change ourselves for the
better, during this blessed month, and not to be of those who are
prevented from His Mercy and forgiveness. Indeed He is the One who Hears
and He is the One to Respond.
Take a vacation for ALLAH

We take a break from our jobs for almost everything in life. Why not this
time to focus on worshiping and thanking our Creator.

If this is not possible at least take a few days off if you can. This can
make it easier to stay awake at night to do extra Ibadah. Whatever you
loose is very negligible in front of whatever you gain from this Night.

Brothers and sisters in Islam!

Fear ALLAH Ta'ala and beware of wasting your life away in futile
activities. Make use of your time by being positive and constructive.
This may this will be your last Ramadaan, your last opportunity to
benefit from the special blessings and forgiveness that accompanies this
month. Know that Ramadaan is a manifestation of ALLAH Ta'ala's bountiful
blessings on His slaves. Use it as a turning point in your life; a time
for transformation towards a better way of life.

Yaa ALLAH ! We are full of sins. We ignore you in our life, Please don't
ignore us and guide us towards your path with the help of Prophet
Mohammed (SAW). And open our hearts to understand our Deen.. Ameen.........

posted by "N Abdullah N Abdullah" in Jewels ofsometimes you think the dream is beautiful and the reality is bad. But the truth is, reality is beautiful but you just never opened your eyes.

"Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up"

"If Allah brings you to it, He will bring you through it. Happy moments, praise Allah. Difficult moments, seek Allah. Quiet moments, worship Allah. Painful moments, trust Allah. Every moment, thank Allah."
...
Sometimes,
ALLAH breaks our spirit to save our soul,
breaks our heart to make us whole,
sends us pain so we can b stronger,
sends us failure so we can be humble,
sends us illness so we can take better care of ourselves,
takes something away from us so we can learn the value of everything we have,

Trust ALLAH, Love ALLAH.
Whatever ALLAH does, is always the Best for us

Why Did Allah (swt) create Heaven, Hell and Earth: Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Heaven
Introduction
(i) Good and Evil
(ii) The Lower Heaven
(iii) The Seven Heavens
(iv) Human's Ability to Comprehend Heaven
(v) Allah (swt)'s Control over the Seven Heavens
(vi) Judgement Day
Conclusion

Creation of Humans
Humans Fulfillment of Role on earth
Hell

Getting Rid of Laziness

An ostrich does this. An ostrich sees danger and just puts it's head in the ground. Laziness has a lot to do with not facing the reality. Sleeping in or just not wanting to wake up. Eventhough it is usually because we are really sleepy.. or tired from the previous day when it gets to the point of excessive sleeping.. that it is usually because of just wanting to hide from the reality.

Also, its like you're in an ocean and ... if u cant swim than you're drowning..

Sleeping in for hours and hours is just going to give you a headache. I never wake up for anything anymore except if I'm about to miss namaz. It seems to be the number one most significant thing and these days
Make namaz your priority. Evertyhing else you might make excuses for and get away with sleeping but never get away with sleeping when you have an obligation to fulfill. After the time is up, its over. Keep a few alarms all around you. Remember:

1. time is passing away
2. remember the hellfire.
3. remember your obligation
4. GET UP !
5. Make your spiritual self stronger than your material self
6. Your day otherwise will have low spirits just the form in which you woke up...

and how could you not wake up ?
after everything you've gone through how could you not wake up ?
how could you not stand up to pray
how could you delay ?
what kind of decent person would do somethign like that
how ungratful is that ?
get up when its time
get up when its time.

dont be like an ostrich. Get up and face the reailty. Time is slipping away. You can take a nap after you are finished your obligations..

Being Yourself

Why would you want to be someone else
When you could be better by being yourself
Why pretend to be someone you are not
When you have something they haven't got

...Cheating yourself of the life you have to live
Deprives others of that only which you can give
You have much more to offer by being just you
Than walking around in someone else's shoes

Trying to live the life of another is a mistake
It is a masquerade; nothing more than a fake
Be yourself and let your qualities show through
Others will love you more for being just you

Remember that God loves you just as you are
To Him you are already a bright shining star
Family and friends will love you more too
If you spent time practicing just being you
~E. Bailey

Love & Inspiration Quotes {found& not written by me :) }

"Why Fight To Live, When We're Living To Die?"
...
No matter how many time you touch the fire it'll always burn

"I'd rather be despised for my character than liked for my lack of it."

"If you think you are too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito".

"A 'No' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'Yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble."

"I used to think 'bad boys' were diamonds in the rough, but then I realized, they were really just lumps of coal."

"If you have made mistakes. . . there is always another chance for you. . . You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call 'failure' is not the falling down but the staying down."
"I don't need anyone to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves."

"Expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian."

"Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't."

"A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets" -Titanic

"What's meant to be will always find its way"

It sucks when you know that you need to let go but you can't because you're still waiting for the impossible to happen.

you know my name, not my story. You've heard what i've done, not what i've been through.

isn't it ironic that in life, the person who brings out the best in you & makes you strong, is actually your weakness?

I don't want a perfect person, I just want someone to act silly with, someone who treats me well & loves being with me more than anything. :)

I can't promise you a perfect relation, but what i can promise you is that as long as we're trying, im staying.

The scariest thing about distance is that you don't know whether they'll miss you or forget you.

People say you don't know what you've got till its gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought you'd never lose it.

She comes off as strong, but maybe she fell asleep crying. She acts like nothing is wrong, but maybe she's just really good at lying.

Telling yourself you can't is the easiest way to fail.

people who are meant to be together will always find their way back to each other. They may take detours in life, but they're never lost.

Before you assume, learn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before you leave, commit to staying.

Im proud of my heart. It's been played, stabbed, cheated, burned, and broken, but somehow still works.

Worrying is a waste of time. It doesn't change anything. It messes with your mind and steals your happiness.

We need to be hurt in order to grow, we much fail in order to know, we must lose in order to gain... lessons are learned best through pain.

Life is short, live it. Love is rare, grab it. Anger is bad, dump it. Fear is awful, face it. Memories are sweet, cherish them.

If you spend too long holding on to the one who treats you like an option, you will miss finding someone who treats you like a priority.

If one day you realize i haven't talked to you in a while, it's not that i don't care, it's because you pushed me away and left me there.

She's strong because she knows what it's like to be weak. She keeps a guard up because she knows what its like to cry herself to sleep

I'm tired of fighting, i want to be fought for. Im tired of caring, i want to be cared for. Im tried of being just me, i wanna be yours.

I'm a girl. I overreact. I underestimate. I overestimate. I over think everything. I dream big. and when i say i love you looking directly in your eyes, im not lying.

Don't cry over the past, it's gone. Don't stress about the future, it hasn't arrived. Live in the present and make it beautiful.

If you're not happy single... why would you be happy in a relationship? love yourself first. :)

Stop hoping for the best and make the best happen for you. Good things come to those who wait, they also come to those that go for them.

Even if you are unsure about God, he is sure about you.

if you're looking for someone to love... start in the mirror.

loving someone who doesn't love you in return, hurts.. bad.

Don't worry if you're single, God's looking at you right now, saying, "i'm saving this girl for someone special"

I'd rather be hurt by the truth than protected by a lie.

Don't be so quick to judge me, because you only see what i choose to show.

never let success get to your head, and never let failure get to your heart.

Don't judge me by my past. I don't live there anymore. :)
never chase love, affection, or attention. If it isn't given freely by another person, it isn't worth having.

Building Character (posted by manners in islam)

bad character

1. IGNORANCE,
2. OPPRESSION,
3. FOLLOWING (his) LOWLY DESIRES
4. ANGER
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good character
1. PATIENCE
2. CHASTITY
3. COURAGE
4. JUSTICE,

what is faith? by kamran pasha

 what is faith?
It is a memory. Of a time when all was perfect in the world. When there was no fear, no grieve and no judgement and no death.
It is a memory of a time before we were born, a beacon to guide us back from the end to the beginning, to the memory of where we came from.
It is a memory of a promise made before the earth was formed, before the stars glittered in the primordial sea.
A promise that says that we weill remember what we have learned on this journey so that we may return full circle, the same and yet different.
Older. Wiser. Filled with compassion for other. And for ourselves.
What is faith?
It is the memory of love.

say what you have to say

speak when u have something to say..not cause u have to say something..... and after you've said it... let it be. ur done ur part... u gave the message..u taught the lesson from ur point..u said what u had to say.... it'll feel like a big burden off urself. and it'll feel like u did ur part. whether somebody listens or not..thats not for u to worry about. A parent will teach you everything they need to guide you through life..but once they've done their part, they wont feel like they werent there. When you see somebody walking into a shadow. Open up the gates to them. Let them know that Allah's gate is always open to them but they're the ones that have to walk through it. When you see somebody that is your friend start to go to drugs. Let them know its bad for them because in life prevention is always better than cure but at the end if they continue you've done your part and you no longer have to share in the burden or the guilt.You can let yourself know.. I did my part. I did my part.
Sometimes when you do somethign good for somebody. You wont get anythign back from them. Never do good for somebody expecting anything from them. Always do good expecting your reward from Allah. And this is the biggest miracle that I know from experience. When you do someone good and it gets returned to you. Sometimes it might not be from the same source, not from the same place, person or even the same life..but it comes right back at you. Every good and bad thing comes back at you like its karma. Its like theres natural forces.
Sometimes it may even be that they are right and you are wrong. We all have beliefs. You cant make anybody trust you or love you or even understand you. You cant make anybody have your beliefs. You cant MAKE anybody do anything. If we were meant to be forced into things than Allah wouldn't have made us human and given us free will. He would have created us as though we had no abilities to reason. He would have made us machines. But we are not machines.
People have tried to copy humans. People have made computers, telephones, radios and tvs all based on our nervous system. All based on aspect of our intelligence. Than put electrical energy to make it work. But where does the energy making our body come from? Something inside us is more than just our physical self. An essence, an energy, a spirit. And its that energy that is unseen to our eyes that drives this temporary machine that is our body and a temporary thing given to us. We gotta open our eyes to a world we can't see but feel. We gotta find a peace and security for the soul. We gotta nurture that soul by remembering Allah and we gotta awaken it
the day u stop caring is the day you'll stop learning. its the soul that constantly on a quest to love and understand everything around it. dont decide shut down your soul but learn to breathe, learn to understand. Dont close your eyes to the world but rather open them no matter how big the burdens..you're here for a reason.. dont kill your heart but keep searching until it finds what its looking for. Peace in an eternal home. A purpose. A life worth living and a purpose fulfilled. We are here for a reason. We have to fulfill it.

because who was there?

"Has there not been over Man a long period of Time, when he was nothing--(not even) mentioned? ― Verily We created Man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: so We gave him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight. We showed him the Way: whether he be grateful or ungrateful (rests on his will)." [The Qur'an 76:1-3]

Freedom?

 let me tell you something about freedom
so many people think that freedom is about getting independence
They're right to a degree because it is about having your own choice
They're right to a degree because its about hearing your own inner voice
They're right because its about being true to yourself
Because thats the start of where you need to stop to dwell

But the long story, it doesnt end there
Because it makes us selfish and life unfair
Because it creates the conditions of greed in our heart
Because that, its only the start

Freedom is the day you need to stop from doing what everybody wants
And stop from doing what pleases everybody else
And stop your own self from being false
This is where you living your own life starts.

And nobody needs to tell you to make your decisions
And nobody needs to tell you how you have to be
See theres norms out there that tell you how to act
Theres false information that is claimed to be facts

But we need to find something thats deep within us
Theres a voice of reason and its the only thing that will please us
The thing that will free us and it will sustain us
Its not collecting all the wealth in the world
Its not being better than everybody else

It is Allah's light that can only perfect us
Show us our purpose and why it was that He made us
The only thing that will put us to peace
Its when the only one we worry about is the Lord whom we must please

And that thing inside is always asking
Always seeking for something
Something that we can depend on
Something that will be with us from now on
A source so true that it will guide us
One that will guide whom we owe our dependence

And that place we find when we find Allah
And that place we find when we start to obey his law
When we put ourselves in the place he made for us
In peace and harmony for the purpose for which he created us.

That's the day we'll truly be free
Free to experience the life for which we should be
Free to grow, to learn to love
All of his creation
Is the day we reach submission

Submission to the will of God
Thats where the real journey will start.
A rope so strong it will never tear us apart.
Save us from the many tricks of shaitan
Save us from falling into wrong

To sail our boat through the vast ocean
And keep us sailing and prevent us from drowning
Keep us smiling and stop us from frowning
Make us dependant on our sole creater
The one in control, the one who is the maker

It's All About the Struggle; Part VI Greed

Greed is to want something that you dont have. It's also a personality trait that although in some scenarious can lead to better achievements and improvements but it can never satisfy your soul or bring you inner peace and happiness.

The truth is, that greed in my opinion as some people say if you want to do business you got to have greed but I dont agree. The truth is if you ever want to get one step ahead you're just going to have to work with what you have and that is the opposite of being greedy, that is being content with the blessings that Allah swt has given you.

Some of us are blessed with riches, some of us are blessed with intelligence, some of us are blessed with athletic abilities and there are many things like this and we always have something that the other person doesnt' have or soemtimes somebody might have a lot more than us but there is always somebody that doenst or didnt have what we have.

Instead of being greedy, we have to look at what we have and work with it. Take care of it, enjoy it and not look at what somebody else has.

Time

The value of time cannot be simply understood
And the things that we do with it eat it up like its food
Whether its thoughts, whether its actions,
whether its production whether its exploitation
whether its good deeds or its bad
whether its wasting it and being sad
whether its giving to others
whether its taking from your brothers
whether its spent remembering Allah
and praying like theres no other God
Whether the intentions are pure
whether into a trap your being lure
but this second that has gone away
is dead forever from this day
from this moment from this world
whether dream or real
wal Asr
Inal insana la fi khusr
Illulazi na aminu wa amilus sali hati
watawa sow bil haqi
watawa sow bis sabr

It's About the Struggle Part V; Envy

    Jealousy is a disliked characteristic in Islam. The word for jealousy in Arabic is hasad. Hasad means to be jealous of somebody's good position and to wish for its elimination. In english the definition for jealousy is displeasing feeling towards somebody that reaches success, and a desire for their elimination for that position and the cause of destruction directed towards that person that has reached that position of success. A mental uneasiness when fearing a rival (in terms of relationship) and increase in suspicion.

    The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) told the believer "Do not be jealous amongst yourselves." And therefore if you are a muslim and have a feeling of jealousy it is part of the tradition of islam to rid yourself of that feeling.

    Jealousy has three stages. The first is a natural human quality with a degree of jealousy where the man is excused and is not his fault. The second is acting according to the demands of jealousy and this makes the man a sinner and the third is opposing the demands of jealousy and for this the person will be rewarded. Jealousy is usually caused by pride and falsehood where without any valid reason the individual seeks to withhold all of the bounties of Allah (swt). It is a disease of the heart and is harmful to this life and the after life. The prophet (saws) said "Jealousy devours good deeds like fire devours wood." In this life ther person is overwhelmed with worry and frustration and is always desiring the other person to be disgraced or awaiting his failure. This destroys the individual's after life and destroys the peace of his mind in this life.

    Being aware of the dangers of jealousy, we need to look towards what the person can do to destroy jealousy. One thing the person may do is that instead of being angry for the bounties Allah (swt) has given to somebody else, rather they should complement the person for those things.

    The best way to cure jealousy however, from my experience is being content with the gifts that Allah (swt) has given you. Preoccupy yourself with things you already have and the things that make you happy rather than focusing on the things that you dont have and you want to have. The bounties of Allah (swt) are distributed, everything, everyone, by not having one thing have another, people have so many things to make them happy so they should never want or look towards something that is not theirs.

    The need for meditation in also important. The best way to meditate when the feeling of jealousy is taking over the person is to remember Allah (swt) and learn to be thankful. Try to overcome that feeling by looking towards the things that you do have and when the feeling once again comes, and the feeling starts to take over you than leave that place and find another place to calm down immedietly before you can take action and once again ask yourself why you are jealous and how you should be thankful and look at the things you do have and the other person doesnt have or look towards those less fortunate than yourself.

    Also, read these interesting facts to know how fortunate you are in comparison to the rest of the world right now so that you can count your blessings;

If you have food in the refrigerator clothes on your back, a roof over head and a place to sleep . . .

you are richer than 70% of this world.

in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace . . .

If you have money in the bank,

you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy.

If you woke up this morning

you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation . . .

you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death . . .

you are more blessed than three billion people in the world.

If your parents are still alive and still married…

you are very rare, even in Canada.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful . . .

you are blessed because although the majority can, most do not.

If you can hold someone’s hand, hug them or even touch them on the shoulder . . .

you are blessed because you can offer healing touch.

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you, and furthermore,

you are  more blessed that over two billion people in the world that cannot read at all.

with more health than illness . . .

Its About the Struggle Part IV; lust

   Lust is a desire for.. (sex). Its like a craving inside you to really want to be with someone and it is selfish. it is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen – in both men and women. A lot of people tend to confuse love and lust unfortunately, thinking they are in love when they are really in lust and the problem with lust is that it is extremely damaging while love is extremely good for a person.

    When you are in lust with someone, you go through the following stages:

Adrenaline

The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.

Dopamine Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love struck’ couples to have their brains examined and discovered they have high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine! Fisher suggests “couples often show the signs of surging dopamine: increased energy, less need for sleep or food, focused attention and exquisite delight in smallest details of this novel relationship” .

Serotonin

And finally, serotonin. One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.

Does love change the way you think?
A landmark experiment in Pisa, Italy showed that early love (the attraction phase) really changes the way you think.

Dr Donatella Marazziti, a psychiatrist at the University of Pisa advertised for twenty couples who'd been madly in love for less than six months. She wanted to see if the brain mechanisms that cause you to constantly think about your lover, were related to the brain mechanisms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.

By analysing blood samples from the lovers, Dr Marazitti discovered that serotonin levels of new lovers were equivalent to the low serotonin levels of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder patients.

Newly smitten lovers often idealise their partner, magnifying their virtues and explaining away their flaws says Ellen Berscheid, a leading researcher on the psychology of love.

New couples also exalt the relationship itself. “It's very common to think they have a relationship that's closer and more special than anyone else's”. Psychologists think we need this rose-tinted view. It makes us want to stay together to enter the next stage of love – attachment. 

And how do you fall into lust? Simple.

And finally … how to fall in lust

• Find a complete stranger.
• Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour.
• Then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes.
  
  

  The lust crave is also selfish as the person doesnt realize it but they really only want (sex), than you dont care about their happiness or well being and just want to get something out of them, you dont care about their feelings, you dont even care about their well being, its like a self serving thing. Only a self serving thing. Purely animal instincts.It is usually based on inappropriate thoughts or pornographical display of the person which creates that craving that creates lust inside yourself and a lot of times people misinterpret that to be the love feeling, (because they want something so they start idealizing that) It is also short term based unfortunately as it lasts from 6 months and uptil 2 years. And than it fades, and now you are living with a person your entire life.
but dont be confused because love does exist.

    Love is based on compatibility, companionship, ideals and morals. 

    Love is also more selflessness. It is about giving, it is about honesty, commitment and mutual peace and happiness. Somebody that you could feel happy around, someone that you can trust whenever you need somebody to be there. Someone you can depend on and can share things to have in common.

    The secret to love is mentioned to us in the Qur'an where Allah (swt) tells us to desire chastity over lust. Pureness. Real love can only be achieved after you have build your own character to the state of giving, after you are pure yourself. Love ccan only come when you truly know how to love. For purity attracts purity.
The fitra of the person. Imagine the fitra of a swine. A swine will eat things including dead insects, worms, trees, bark, garbage and even dead pigs. A lion on the other hand will only eat fresh meat.(leftovers) even if you were to put fresh food infront of it, and a lion will only eat fresh meat and would never eat the leftovers, and  a human will only eat cooked biryani etc. Similarly, all that is good and pure will attract good and pure things, while all that is filthy and impure will attract similarly impure things. What we love also shows who we are. A spiritual person will like other spiritual beings and will value much higher things (which include compassion, kindness, just treatment) etc and will see other spiritual beings. Love, it can only be from the human spiritual perspective as all that is good and pure is from Allah (swt) and those who are connected to him.

    The thing you have to know is that you could have lust in mind for somebody that is very chaste. You could have lust in mind for somebody very moral and good so at the end of the day it is only you that you have to work at, but the other way to look at it is that it is impossible to not have lust for someone that tries to be lustful. But in the end, most of it has to do with character and values that make love. Love includes for someone to be religious so they value things like giving, honesty, modesty, peace and happiness. They dont seek selfish reasons out of you that are self serving, and its always important to remember in every relationship (which ofcource is "love" that is in relationships) that you focus more on what you do for the other compared to what they do for you. A moral characteristic in relationships is about your dealings with people that have to be more understanding and giving. Because when you love the person, you want to make them happy, listen to them in times of need, support them throughout every situation, care about their well being while you are away from them, and keep their respect after they are gone.

    So controlling lust, the answer to it has also been given to us in the Qur'an. It says, to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty (and do men's hijab which is below the knees and upto the bell and for women that they should lower their gaze and cover their entire body except for what must be appeared infront of non mehrams. Because lust sees with the eyes, but love is truly blind but sees with the heart. And Allah (swt) also says in the Qur'an, that he put love and mercy between you and the one one that Allah made for you. And that is real love.

Its About the Struggle Part III; Depression

    The next difficult challenge that an individual is going to face is depression. Its another attack of shaitan and another internal battle that needs to be fought. The only way to do that is to go 180 degrees the opposite direction. The fundamentals of happiness

1. know that if you do not live in today that your thoughts will be scattered, your affairs will be confused, and your worrying will increase. When in the morning than do not expect to see the evening, in evending do not expect to see the morning
2. Forget the past but have learned from it to help you live today but do not be distressed over it
3. do not worry about the future until you are there
4. do not be shaken by criticism but be firm and know that the criticism rises according to your worth
5. faith in Allah and good deeds make up a happy life
6. whoever desire peace, tranquility and comfort can find it in the remembrance of Allah
7. You should kow everything that happens is determined by the divine decreed
8. Do not expect gratitude from anyone
9. Train yourself to be prepared for the worst
10. Perhaps what happened is actually in your best interest but you do not comprehend it
11. Everything that is decreed for the muslims is best for them
12. Enumerate the blessings of Allah and be thankful for them
13. You are better off than many people
14. Relief comes from one hour to the next
15. In both times of hardship and ease one should learn to supplicate and do prayer
16. Calamaity should strengthen your heart and shape your outlook in a psotive sense
17. With each difficuclty there relief
18. Do not let trifles be the cause of your destruction
19. Indeed your Lord is oft forgiving
20. do not be angry do not be angry do not be angry
21. life is bread, water and shade so do not be perpetuated by lack of material things, rather consider all the other things fulfillments of needs plus (the other needs) bonuses and extra blessings
22. Most evil that is suppose to happen never occurs
23. Look towards those who are afflicted and be thankful
24. When Allah loves a people he makes them endure trials
25. You should constantly repeat supplications that the prophet taught us in the times of hardships
26. be productive and cast off idleness
27. dont spread rumours nor listen to them and if you hear a rumour dont believe it
28. malice and striving for revenge are worse to your health than antagonist
29. hardship atone for sins

(the list of tips are from "dont be sad" from the site kalamullah)

Its About the Struggle Part II; Anger

   The second struggle that an individual has to face is anger. The thing about anger is it can come up at any time any place and for any reason whether it is big or small. You can take any of the sins such as pride, where anger can attack you because you think that you are better than somebody else. In Greed when you really want something you might get angry for not getting that something, gluttony the same thing, depression can lead to anger because you are frustrated that nobody is there for you or that things are not working out the way that you wanted them to so to fight out of that you feel the need to get angry. Envy can lead to ferocious behaviours, and so we see anger in all kinds of situation, big and small but the thing about anger is that the person acts out of the grasp of reason and entirely out of emotions.

   Taming your anger is very difficult and the best way to do it is to firstly make sure that you pray for all five times every single day. Make sure that you are dressed clean, that you yourself are clean and your room, your surroundings are all organized and in place. Make sure to drink water or keep it close to you in a bottle because anger can strike any time and at any place at big or small things but before it takes over you, you really need to tame that feeling. You might be right or you might be wrong but if you loose your temper and if you do get angry whether you were the one that was correct you are going to look guilty. I've faced a few situations in life where the other person was entirely guilty but because I lost my temper at their selfishness that I ended up getting in trouble. Guilty people, they try to anger you but sometimes it may even be that you are the guilty one but are blinded by your anger. The thing is, anger is like a bomb, an explosive device just sitting around and it can blow up any minute but you have to stop the reaction from happening, stop yourself from exploding because anger is nothing but a form of absolute and complete chaos. And when it comes right down to it, logic defeats anger.

   Before I began talking about my own knowledge I would also refer this site which is really interesting when discussing anger and when you are angry it will make all the sense in the world (the things that are referred to and being explained).

http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx#

   From my own experience, and from my knowledge of the hadith of the prophet Muhammad (pbuh), that when you are angry, if you are standing, sit down, if you are sitting down lie down, and if you are lying down and it doesn't work than go and drink some water. These are all forms of relaxation. When we are angry our blood pressure rises and other reactions happen in our body because certain things are going to irritate us, certain times we are going to feel like what made us angry is justifiable such as injustice, neglect and things of this nature. The thing to remember however is that anger will exaggerate everything around you. Anger will make the problem gigantic and illogical, anger will be based on the perspective that I am correct and all the rest of the people are incorrect but controlling it is not an easy thing to do at all. But anger comes from the shaitan, and it needs to be controlled.

    The best thing to do when something irritating happens is to either express it and that doesnt mean to demand someone to be a certain other way it means to say it through steps such as I would like it if you were to do things this way, or to change yourself out of that environment or to find something less irritating and more calming to do and change your focus. Meditate, make sure to do your prayers. When anger is coming than try to calm yourself down by reminding yourself that it is from the shaitan. If it doesnt work than go to drink a glass of water, if that doesnt work than leave the room and ask for a moment on your own and go sit down, lie down and breathe inhaling and exhaling slowly but if none of those things work than start praying. Do a few rakats with meaning and not in a rush and than if nothing is helping than go take a shower and start reciting Qur'an abundantly until the shaitan inside you is defeated.

Just remember. Anger doesnt solve it. Never allow yourself to be angry. Proper things might be irritating you but you need to handle them assertively. Neither passively, nor aggressively. Always with a calm ming.