The second struggle that an individual has to face is anger. The thing about anger is it can come up at any time any place and for any reason whether it is big or small. You can take any of the sins such as pride, where anger can attack you because you think that you are better than somebody else. In Greed when you really want something you might get angry for not getting that something, gluttony the same thing, depression can lead to anger because you are frustrated that nobody is there for you or that things are not working out the way that you wanted them to so to fight out of that you feel the need to get angry. Envy can lead to ferocious behaviours, and so we see anger in all kinds of situation, big and small but the thing about anger is that the person acts out of the grasp of reason and entirely out of emotions.
Taming your anger is very difficult and the best way to do it is to firstly make sure that you pray for all five times every single day. Make sure that you are dressed clean, that you yourself are clean and your room, your surroundings are all organized and in place. Make sure to drink water or keep it close to you in a bottle because anger can strike any time and at any place at big or small things but before it takes over you, you really need to tame that feeling. You might be right or you might be wrong but if you loose your temper and if you do get angry whether you were the one that was correct you are going to look guilty. I've faced a few situations in life where the other person was entirely guilty but because I lost my temper at their selfishness that I ended up getting in trouble. Guilty people, they try to anger you but sometimes it may even be that you are the guilty one but are blinded by your anger. The thing is, anger is like a bomb, an explosive device just sitting around and it can blow up any minute but you have to stop the reaction from happening, stop yourself from exploding because anger is nothing but a form of absolute and complete chaos. And when it comes right down to it, logic defeats anger.
Before I began talking about my own knowledge I would also refer this site which is really interesting when discussing anger and when you are angry it will make all the sense in the world (the things that are referred to and being explained).
From my own experience, and from my knowledge of the hadith of the prophet Muhammad (pbuh), that when you are angry, if you are standing, sit down, if you are sitting down lie down, and if you are lying down and it doesn't work than go and drink some water. These are all forms of relaxation. When we are angry our blood pressure rises and other reactions happen in our body because certain things are going to irritate us, certain times we are going to feel like what made us angry is justifiable such as injustice, neglect and things of this nature. The thing to remember however is that anger will exaggerate everything around you. Anger will make the problem gigantic and illogical, anger will be based on the perspective that I am correct and all the rest of the people are incorrect but controlling it is not an easy thing to do at all. But anger comes from the shaitan, and it needs to be controlled.
The best thing to do when something irritating happens is to either express it and that doesnt mean to demand someone to be a certain other way it means to say it through steps such as I would like it if you were to do things this way, or to change yourself out of that environment or to find something less irritating and more calming to do and change your focus. Meditate, make sure to do your prayers. When anger is coming than try to calm yourself down by reminding yourself that it is from the shaitan. If it doesnt work than go to drink a glass of water, if that doesnt work than leave the room and ask for a moment on your own and go sit down, lie down and breathe inhaling and exhaling slowly but if none of those things work than start praying. Do a few rakats with meaning and not in a rush and than if nothing is helping than go take a shower and start reciting Qur'an abundantly until the shaitan inside you is defeated.
Just remember. Anger doesnt solve it. Never allow yourself to be angry. Proper things might be irritating you but you need to handle them assertively. Neither passively, nor aggressively. Always with a calm ming.
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