Recongnizing His Existence

   The first most important thing to do, in order to develop a relationship with Allah (swt) is to recongize His existence absolutely and completely. A lot of literature has already been written about this. Below are examples of three different forms of Tawheed.

   The types of Tawheed are three: Tawheed ar-Ruboobiyyah, Tawheed al-Ilaahiyyah and Tawheed al-Asmaa was-Sifaat.

    Tawheed ar-Ruboobiyyah is singling out Allaah the Exalted with (the actions of) creation, providing sustenance, giving life, causing death, and all of the types of regulation and administration of the dominion of the heavens and earth, and (also) singling Him out, the Exalted, with (the right to) judgement and legislation and sending of the Messengers and revealing of Books. Allaah the Exalted said, "Verily, to Him belongs the creation and the comman, blessed be Allaah, the Lord of the worlds" (al-A`raaf 7:54).

    Tawheed al-Uloohiyyah is singling out Allaah with worship so that none besides Him is worshipped, so that none besides Him is called upon, so that no one is sought for rescue, or aid except Him. So that no one is sacrificed to or slaughtered for, or made an oath for, except Him. Allaah the Exalted said, "Say: My prayer, my sacrifice, my life and my death are for Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. He has no partner. This is what I have been commanded with and I am the first of those who submit (to him with Islaam and Tawheed)" (al-An'aam 6:162), and He said, "Therefore turn in prayer to your Lord and sacrifice (to Him only)" (al-Kawthar 108:2).

    Tawheed al-Asmaa was-Sifaat is describing Allaah the Most High and naming Him with whatever He described and named Himself with, and with whatever His Messenger (sallAllaahu `alayhi wa sallam) described and named Him with in the authentic narrations - and to affirm that for Allaah without resemblance (to the creation) or likening (to the creation), and without (false) interpretation (of any of that) or negation (of any of that). There is nothing like Him and He is the All-Hearer, the All-Seer. And may Allaah send prayers and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and his companions.

Our Relationship With Allah (swt): Table of Contents

(1) Perceiving His Existence

(2) Seeking His Pleasure
(3) Purifying the Intentions

(3) What to do with Attachments

100 Questions to Ask Before Marriage

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[*]What is your concept of marriage?

[*]Have you been married before?

[*]Are you married now?

[*]What are you expectations of marriage?

[*]What are your goals in life? (long and short term)

[*]Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.

[*]Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.

[*]Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

[*]What is the role of religion in your life now?

[*]Are you a spiritual person?

[*]What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?

[*]What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?

[*]What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?

[*]Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

[*]What can you offer your spouse, spiritually?

[*]What is the role of the husband?

[*]What is the role of the wife?

[*]Do you want to practice polygamy?

[*]What is your relationship with your family?

[*]What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?

[*]What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?

[*]Is there anyone in your family living with you now?

[*]Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

[*]If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?

[*]Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)

[*]How did you get to know them?

[*]Why are they your friends?

[*]What do you like most about them?

[*]What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

[*]Do you have friends of the opposite sex?

[*]What is the level of your relationship with them now?

[*]What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?

[*]What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?

[*]What are the things that you do in your free time?

[*]Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?

[*]What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?

[*]What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

[*]Do you travel?

[*]How do you spend your vacations?

[*]How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?

[*]Do you read?

[*]What do you read?

[*]After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?

[*]After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?

[*]How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?

[*]How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?

[*]Do you like to write your feelings?

[*]If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?

[*]If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?

[*]How much time passes before you can forgive someone?

[*]How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?

[*]Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?

[*]Do your friends use foul language?

[*]Does your family use foul language?

[*]How do you express anger?

[*]How do you expect your spouse to express anger?

[*]What do you do when you are angry?

[*]When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?

[*]When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?

[*]Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.

[*]What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?

[*]Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?

[*]Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?

[*]Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?

[*]What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?

[*]How do you support your own health and nutrition?

[*]What is you definition of wealth?

[*]How do you spend money?

[*]How do you save money?

[*]How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?

[*]Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?

[*]Do you use credit cards?

[*]Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?

[*]What are you expecting from your spouse financially?

[*]What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?

[*]Do you support the idea of a working wife?

[*]If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?

[*]Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?

[*]Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?

[*]Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?

[*]Do you want to have children? If not, how come?

[*]To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?

[*]Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?

[*]Do you believe in abortion?

[*]Do you have children now?

[*]What is your relationship with your children now?

[*]What is your relationship with their other parent?

[*]What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

[*]What is the best method(s) of raising children?

[*]What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?

[*]How were you raised?

[*]How were you disciplined?

[*]Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?

[*]Do you believe in public school for your children?

[*]Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?

[*]Do you believe in home schooling for your children?

[*]What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?

[*]Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?

[*]What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?

[*]If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?[/LIST]