100 Questions to Ask Before Marriage

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[*]What is your concept of marriage?

[*]Have you been married before?

[*]Are you married now?

[*]What are you expectations of marriage?

[*]What are your goals in life? (long and short term)

[*]Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.

[*]Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.

[*]Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

[*]What is the role of religion in your life now?

[*]Are you a spiritual person?

[*]What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?

[*]What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?

[*]What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?

[*]Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

[*]What can you offer your spouse, spiritually?

[*]What is the role of the husband?

[*]What is the role of the wife?

[*]Do you want to practice polygamy?

[*]What is your relationship with your family?

[*]What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?

[*]What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?

[*]Is there anyone in your family living with you now?

[*]Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

[*]If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?

[*]Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)

[*]How did you get to know them?

[*]Why are they your friends?

[*]What do you like most about them?

[*]What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

[*]Do you have friends of the opposite sex?

[*]What is the level of your relationship with them now?

[*]What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?

[*]What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?

[*]What are the things that you do in your free time?

[*]Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?

[*]What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?

[*]What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

[*]Do you travel?

[*]How do you spend your vacations?

[*]How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?

[*]Do you read?

[*]What do you read?

[*]After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?

[*]After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?

[*]How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?

[*]How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?

[*]Do you like to write your feelings?

[*]If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?

[*]If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?

[*]How much time passes before you can forgive someone?

[*]How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?

[*]Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?

[*]Do your friends use foul language?

[*]Does your family use foul language?

[*]How do you express anger?

[*]How do you expect your spouse to express anger?

[*]What do you do when you are angry?

[*]When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?

[*]When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?

[*]Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.

[*]What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?

[*]Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?

[*]Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?

[*]Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?

[*]What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?

[*]How do you support your own health and nutrition?

[*]What is you definition of wealth?

[*]How do you spend money?

[*]How do you save money?

[*]How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?

[*]Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?

[*]Do you use credit cards?

[*]Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?

[*]What are you expecting from your spouse financially?

[*]What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?

[*]Do you support the idea of a working wife?

[*]If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?

[*]Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?

[*]Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?

[*]Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?

[*]Do you want to have children? If not, how come?

[*]To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?

[*]Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?

[*]Do you believe in abortion?

[*]Do you have children now?

[*]What is your relationship with your children now?

[*]What is your relationship with their other parent?

[*]What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

[*]What is the best method(s) of raising children?

[*]What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?

[*]How were you raised?

[*]How were you disciplined?

[*]Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?

[*]Do you believe in public school for your children?

[*]Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?

[*]Do you believe in home schooling for your children?

[*]What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?

[*]Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?

[*]What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?

[*]If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?[/LIST]